Helping The Living John Bobbitt    Helping the Living Thomas Lynch said the work of the funeral director is “to help the dead get to where they need to go and the living to get to where they need to go.” The first deals with the disposition, the second deals with remembering and beginning the healing process. We take seriously the stewardship of both. Our counselors listen and help you sort out your feelings and priorities. The alternatives you select will reflect those thoughtful decisions.